Something I realized lately is that to most of the population I am an extra at best in this play of life but for the most part no one is looking at me. Even if they are they don’t know who I am. Even if they do they probably don’t care.
You are special to people who know you. The people who love you cherish you, and to them you matter.
But to know someone takes time. Time is limited and so the number of people you truly can know beyond the trivial is minimal
Not to mention that most people are just like you, paying attention to their actions , thoughts and feelings.
Finally, add in the pull of the smart phone which people are buried in and you realize that for the most part you could do whatever you want and as long as you aren’t hurting anyone no one is gonna even notice or remember.
While this might seem like a great existential problem, reframing it as a human boon can help you immensely.
Since no one is watching really, you can do whatever you want, in the private of your own life. You are free to dye your hair green,or dress like a hipster or wear an anime tshirt.
Because at the end of the day no one is really gonna care except you.